Kuphatikiza ma gilt mu gulu lachibale

Mawu Oyamba a Womasulira

Kodi ntchito yaikulu ya oweta ndi chiyani? Inde, izi ndi nkhawa kuti ana ake amagwera m'manja abwino. Kodi “manja abwino” ndi chiyani? "Manja abwino" ndi mwiniwake yemwe amapereka chisamaliro choyenera, momwe moyo wa nyama uli pafupi kwambiri ndi moyo wa zinyama m'chilengedwe. Pokhapokha muzochitika zoterezi nkhumba idzasangalala. Zinthuzi zikuphatikizapo kuti m'chilengedwe nkhumba zimakhala m'magulu ndipo muyenera kusunga nkhumba ziwiri mu khola. Nkhumba zimalankhulana m’chinenero chimene amamva, kuchita miyambo yonunkhiza, ndi zina zotero. Munthu sangalowe m’malo mwa iye yekha. Cholakwika chachikulu ndi chikhulupiriro cha anthu kuti ngati atenga nkhumba kuti igone, kuigwedeza, kuyimba nyimbo, ndi zina zotero, ndiye kuti nkhumba idzasangalala.

Kodi tiyenera kulabadira chiyani?

Nthawi zambiri, obereketsa ndi okonda zosangalatsa amakumana ndi funso lophatikiza ma gilts mu gulu. Mafunso otere angabwere, mwachitsanzo, pakafa nkhumba imodzi ndikugula bwenzi latsopano kwa otsala, kapena pamene woweta akufuna kukulitsa gulu lake, ndi zina zotero.

Kodi magulu apangidwe bwanji kuti apewe mikangano?

M'chilengedwe, nkhumba zimakhala m'magulu: imodzi yaimuna ndi yaikazi angapo ndi ana awo. Harem imatha kukhala ndi akazi 15. Ana akamakula, anyamata aang'ono amayesa kutenganso akazi angapo kuchokera kwa mtsogoleri kuti adzipangire okha akazi awo. Ana sachita bwino, choncho anyamata amakhala m'magulu aamuna mpaka atagonjetsa akazi awo. Amuna ena amakhalabe mpaka kalekale mugulu loterolo ndipo amakhala ngati pseudo-akazi. Amuna ena amatsalira m’nyumba ya akazi amene anabadwiramo. Zikatero, iwo amakhala otsika kwambiri kuposa mtsogoleri, koma amatha kutenga nawo mbali pakuswana pamene mtsogoleri "amasiya" ndipo samazindikira kuswana kwawo ndi mkazi.

Nkhumba zapakhomo zimakhala ndi zosowa zofanana ndi za anzawo akutchire. Zosoŵa zimenezi zimaphatikizapo, limodzi ndi chakudya ndi malo okwanira, kukhalapo kwa wachibale mmodzi wapafupi. Nkhumba zimabadwa m’gulu, zimakulira mmenemo, zimalandira udindo winawake. Gululo limalankhulana m’chinenero chawo, mamembala a gulu amazindikirana mwa fungo. Kununkhiza tsiku ndi tsiku ndi mwambo wofunikira. Pansi pa denga la munthu, nkhumba siziyenera kulandidwa mwayi umenewu. Koma kuphatikiza ma gilt mu gulu sikophweka nthawi zonse…

Mukayika nkhumba ziwiri zosadziwika pamodzi, mwambo wodziwana ndi kutsimikiza udindo umapezeka pakati pawo: kununkhiza ndi kuyesa kudumphana ndi zachilendo. Nyama zimatha kugwetsa mano ndi kudumphana. Musawasokoneze pochita izi (pokhapokha ngati akulimbana kwambiri). Kudziwana kumafuna kuleza mtima kuchokera kwa woweta. Kutsimikiza kwa udindo kumatenga, monga lamulo, masiku angapo, pambuyo pake, nkhumba ndi nyama zamtendere. Ngati mumps adzazunzidwa ndi achibale pambuyo pa masiku angapo, ayenera kulekanitsidwa ndi gulu.

Popeza nkhumba imakhalanso ndi khalidwe lawo komanso zomwe sizikonda, musanagule nkhumba yatsopano, tikulimbikitsidwa kuti tiwone bwinobwino ngati idzagwirizana ndi gulu lanu. Chinthu chothandiza kwambiri: musanayike nkhumba yatsopano m'gulu, muyenera kupukuta msana wake ndi utuchi wonyansa kuchokera mu khola lomwe mubzalemo. Nkhumba yotere nthawi zambiri anthu amaiona kuti ndi yake. Zimathandizanso kudziwana koyamba m'gawo losalowerera ndale. Panthawiyi, khola liyenera kutsukidwa ndipo kukonzanso pang'ono kwa nyumba ndi zipangizo zina ziyenera kupangidwa mmenemo. Mu khola, payenera kukhala nyumba za nkhumba iliyonse, ndipo poyamba chakudya chiyenera kumwazikana mu khola kuti zisagwedezeke pa chodyetsa.

Kwenikweni, pali zitsanzo zambiri zophatikizira ma gilt mu gulu. Kwa obereketsa ongoyamba kumene, kusunga nkhumba ziwiri mu khola limodzi ndikokwanira.

Ngati imodzi mwa nkhumba yafa, iyenera kusinthidwa ndi yatsopano. Oweta amalimbikitsa kutenga nkhumba yatsopano yazaka zofanana ndi yotsalayo. Nkhumba zazing'ono zimaseweretsa kwambiri ndipo nthawi zambiri zimafika pamitsempha ya nkhumba pazaka zolemekezeka, ndipo nkhumbayo imasowa wosewera naye. Gulu la nkhumba zinayi ndi zabwino kwambiri kuposa gulu la atatu, chifukwa si zachilendo kuti ziwembu ziwiri zotsutsana ndi chimodzi zichitike mu gulu la atatu.

Pali magulu osiyanasiyana a nkhumba kutengera jenda:

• gulu la akazi
• gulu la akazi okhala ndi mwamuna wothena;
• gulu la amuna.
• gulu la akazi omwe ali ndi mwamuna (ngati palibe mavuto ndi kukhazikitsidwa kwa ana, ndiye kuti mukhoza kusunga ma harems enieni a nkhumba za nkhumba).

gulu la amuna Zomwe zili m'gulu la amuna zimayambitsa kukambirana kwakukulu. Zomwe zili m'gulu lotere ndizotheka kwambiri. Pali malamulo angapo: akazi ayenera kuchotsedwa m'dera olfactory gulu. Kugawika bwino kwa maudindo kumabweretsa moyo wamtendere. Amuna akuluakulu amachitira ana a nkhumba amuna mofanana ndi akazi. Ana a nkhumba omwe amaleredwa ndi mtsogoleri wamwamuna, monga lamulo, samayambitsa mavuto ndikuphatikizananso mu gulu la amuna. Kuphatikizika kokha kwa atsogoleri awiri kuyenera kupewedwa. Amagwirizana kwambiri, mwachitsanzo, abambo ndi ana a nkhumba, abale. 

gulu la akazi Mkangano pakati pa akazi nthawi zambiri umatha m'mabala ndi kuvulala, komabe, pali akazi omwe amateteza gawo lawo mpaka kumapeto. Zikatero, kuphatikiza kumapezeka kokha kuchokera kachiwiri kapena kachitatu. Pamene nyamazo zimagwirizana kwambiri, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kugwirizanitsa. Lingaliro loti nkhumba zonse pagulu ndi zofanana ndizosocheretsa. Aliyense ali ndi malo ake pagulu, nthawi zina pali mikangano, koma ndi yachibadwa. Palibe chifukwa choganizira kuti gululo silikugwira ntchito. Sizovuta kuika atsikana pagulu, chifukwa poyamba amadziwa malo awo chifukwa cha msinkhu wawo ndipo samatsutsa akazi akuluakulu. Akulu adzawanunkhiza, kuwapatsa mphamvu pang'ono kuti azichita bwino, ndipo kumeneko kudzakhala kutha kwake. Pophatikiza akazi achikulire, mikangano ingabuke mpaka udindo wawo m'gulu utsimikiziridwa. 

Gulu la akazi okhala ndi mwamuna wothena Izi mosakayikira kuphatikiza kogwirizana kwambiri. Mwamuna sayenera kuthedwa pasanathe miyezi isanu ndi inayi kuti adzakhale ndi ulamuliro pagulu. The castrato imabwezeretsa mtendere pakagwa mikangano pakati pa akazi. 

© Petra Hemeinhardt

© Yomasuliridwa ndi Larisa Schulz

*Zidziwitso za omasulira: Ndimasunga gulu la amuna anayi ndi gulu limodzi la akazi awiri. Ndiloleni ndiwonjezere pa zomwe ndaona: chimodzi mwa zifukwa za mikangano ya amuna ndi ulesi wawo. Chimodzi mwa makiyi kuti apambane ndi chakudya chosatha cha udzu mu khola, nthambi, zoseweretsa, nyumba, ndi zina zotero. Amuna akakhala otopa, amayamba kudziwa omwe ma cones ali m'nkhalango. Mamembala ena abwalo lakalabu yathu amasunga magulu aamuna, ena adakwanitsa kuyanjanitsa akazi aukali.

Ndemanga pamwambo wa MMS Club (wotenga nawo mbali - Norka):

Nkhani yabwino! Zonse zili pa mfundo! Inde, nkhumba nthawi zonse zimakhala zosangalatsa kwambiri kukhala ndi achibale. Kupatulapo, monga nthawi zonse, zimachitika, zimapangidwa ndi zitsanzo za munthu aliyense wokhala ndi mikangano. (Anthu amakhalanso ndi izi.) Kwa zaka zingapo tsopano ndakhala ndikuwonera moyo wa nkhumba zanga, popeza moyo wathu, wina anganene, umadutsa mbali ndi mbali (m'khitchini). Ndakulanso pang'ono pa psychology ya nkhumba, kotero ndimavomereza mwamtheradi mawu aliwonse a nkhaniyi!

Nkhumba yanga Stas tsopano yakhala yokha. (chifukwa sindikufuna ana a kasupe, timapeza ndi "magazi aakulu" chifukwa cha chitetezo chathu cha mthupi). Inde, ndiloleni kuti ndidzitamande kachiwiri, ndine mwiniwake wabwino kwambiri: mu khola nthawi zonse ndipamwamba kuposa denga ndi chakudya, ndi udzu, ndi mabelu ena ndi mluzu. Stas samawoneka ngati wosatopa komanso wosowa. Inde, akanakhala yekha mosangalala. Koma mukadaona maso ake nditatulutsa m’modzi wa achibale ake m’khola lina! Amachifikira ngati nkhaka! Chifukwa chake, ndikutsimikizira kuti nyama yaying'ono (kupatulapo yachilendo) imafunikira kulumikizana! Makamaka ng'ombe ndi kunyamula nyama! Inde, mwina m'mbiri yakale adasonkhana pamodzi m'matumba kuti apulumuke bwino kuthengo. Koma mbiri yakale yasokera ndi zotulukapo zonse zomwe zimachokera kuno! Amangokhala ndi moyo weniweni womwe ukuchitika mu gulu la nkhosa: chikondi, disassembly, kulankhulana, chitetezo pamodzi, etc. Uwu ndi moyo!

Pakali pano ndili ndi gulu la atsikana atatu, kotero kuti wamkulu "pakhomo" Nyuska sadya "mkate" wake pachabe - amateteza ena pangozi (mwachitsanzo, pamene chotsukira chayandikira kapena agalu amanunkhiza, aliyense amabisala kumbuyo kwake, amapita patsogolo). Ndipo izi zisanachitike, Stas adateteza choncho. Inde, panali mikangano pamene “ndinagogoda pamodzi” ng’ombe. Anapirira sabata. Tsopano zonse nzabwino. Zindikirani kuti sindikufuna kugula nyama zambiri, kuzisunga mu khola locheperako, kuzidyetsa bwino, ndi mawu akuti "koma adzasangalala!". Ayi konse. Izi ndi zina monyanyira.

Ndikukulimbikitsani kuti mupeze malo apakati, kotero kuti sakhala okwera mtengo kwa inu, ndipo nyama zazing'ono zimakhala bwino. Choncho, pogula nyama, ndithudi, muyenera kumuuza mwiniwake wamtsogolo kuti izi ndi ziweto ndipo, ngati n'kotheka, pezani nyama ziwiri. Ndipo akamandiitana za ana a nkhumba, nthawi zonse ndimadzifunsa ngati pali nkhumba zambiri, kapena ngati pali zina zomwe zakonzedwa, "malo okhala" ndi chiyani. Ndipo ngati andiuza kuti akhoza kusunga nkhumba imodzi mu khola laling'ono chifukwa cha kusowa kwa malo, ndiyeno munthu yemwe ali ndi "zabwinobwino" amayitana, ndiye kuti ndidzasankha yachiwiri. Ndipo mwiniwake wamtsogolo ayenera kuphunzira zambiri za nyama yogula ndikusamalira tsogolo lake labwino pasadakhale, osati kungogula ngati chidole china kwa mwanayo, kapena ngati chimwemwe kwa iye yekha, wosungulumwa, wosamvetsetseka ndi aliyense. Ichi si chifukwa chosiya kusungulumwa komanso chiweto.

Kumbali yanga, monga woweta, ine ndekha nthawi zonse ndimapereka kuchotsera pafupifupi 50% ngati nkhumba ziwiri zichotsedwa kwa ine nthawi imodzi, popeza chinthu chachikulu kwa ine, monga wokonda, ndi mawa okondwa kwa ziweto zanga, kotero kuti sizingakhale zowawa kwambiri pambuyo pake. Inde, ndikuganiza kuti obereketsa akuluakulu ndi osiyana pang'ono. Kalanga, ndichifukwa chake ali obereketsa akuluakulu. Iliyonse ili ndi zabwino ndi zoyipa zake.

Ine, monga katswiri wa zamoyo wamtundu watsopano, monga wogwira ntchito ku WWF (sindingakutsimikizireni Greenpeace, koma WWF imakhala pa inu nthawi zonse! 🙂 Ndingayerekeze kunena kuti "kusamalira anthu" kwa nyama nthawi zina kumakhala kothandiza! osati cholengedwa chopanda nzeru, onse ndi osiyana, ndi zokonda, ndi chikondi, pali mitundu yonse ya maubwenzi ena (mwina kutali, koma nthawi zina amatikumbutsa anthu). ndi kuwadziwa ndi kuwaganizira iwo "chirengedwe" (zizoloŵezi zawo, maubwenzi awo kuthengo, etc.), ndi kusunga zachibadwa, "anthu" mikhalidwe kwa iwo, ndiye nyama okha adzamva bwino ndi ife.