Chifukwa chiyani simuyenera kumenya galu

Tsoka ilo, mpaka pano, eni ake ambiri amatsimikiza kuti popanda kumenya, kulera ndi kuphunzitsa galu ndizosatheka. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa nthano zolimba komanso zowopsa, ndipo tidzachotsa mphamvu zake posachedwa. Komabe, anthu ochulukirachulukira (ndipo iyi ndi nkhani yabwino) amakonda kukhulupirira kuti agalu sayenera kumenyedwa. Chifukwa chiyani ndizosatheka kumenya galu ndi momwe, pakadali pano, kukwaniritsa zomwe mukufuna kuchokera kwa izo?

Chithunzi: psychologytoday

N’chifukwa chiyani simungamenye galu, ngakhale “sakupweteka”? 

Pali zifukwa zambiri zomwe simuyenera kumenya galu.

Choyamba, kumenya cholengedwa chamoyo, chomwe moyo wake ndi ubwino wake zimadalira munthu, ndi nkhanza chabe.

Kachiwiri, galuyo amachita "zoipa" chifukwa mwina adaphunzitsidwa khalidwe loterolo, ngakhale osazindikira (ndipo nthawi zambiri ndi munthu amene amamumenya), kapena adalengedwa mwachibadwa chifukwa cha khalidweli (ndiko kuti, limachita - ndi chiyani? zodabwitsa! - ngati galu) kapena analeredwa ndi munthu (ngati tikukamba za makhalidwe amtundu umene mwiniwake sanawaganizire pogula galu), kapena zosowa zake zoyambirira sizinakhutitsidwe (zomwenso ndi "zoyenera." "munthu). Choncho si bwino kumumenya chifukwa cha zimenezi.

Chachitatu, kumenya galu sikuthandiza kwenikweni. Ndipo ndikufuna kukhazikika pa izi mwatsatanetsatane.

Chithunzi: keepthetailwagging

N'chifukwa chiyani anthu amamenya agalu ndipo zimabweretsa zotsatira zomwe akufuna?

Pali zifukwa zinayi zomwe anthu amamenya agalu:

1. Mwamuna amene amamenya galu amamasuka m'maganizo. Anabwera kunyumba atagwira ntchito movutikira, ndipo adalandiranso chidzudzulo kuchokera kwa akuluakulu ake, ndipo kunyumba - matope ena kapena nsapato zoluma. Anamenya galuyo - zinkawoneka kuti akumva bwino. Vuto ndilokuti zochitika zoterezi zimalimbitsa munthu, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti adzamenya galu mobwerezabwereza. Kodi idzaphunzitsa galu kukhala ndi khalidwe? Zokayikitsa kwambiri. Koma kuopa mwiniwake ndi kusamukhulupirira kudzaphunzitsa.
2. Munthu amayesa kusiya khalidwe losayenera la agalu ndi kukwapula. Mwachitsanzo, galu anayesera kuba chidutswa cha soseji patebulo - mwamunayo anagunda, galu anagwetsa soseji ndikuthawa. Galu akuwuwa - mwamunayo anamumenya, anakhala chete. Kodi zotsatira zake zatheka? Zikuwoneka ngati khalidwe lasiya. Koma zoona zake n’zakuti ayi. Zoona zake n’zakuti kumenya sikukhudza chilimbikitso cha galu mwanjira iliyonsendipo chosowa chake sichinakwaniritsidwe. Izi zikutanthauza kuti galu adzayang'ana njira zina - osati kuti mudzawakonda kwambiri. Mwina galuyo sadzabanso patebulo pamaso pa mwiniwake - koma nchiyani chingamulepheretse kuchita izi pamene atembenuka kapena ali m'chipinda china? Ngati galu auwa chifukwa cha chisangalalo chopambanitsa, kumenyedwako sikungampangitse kukhala wodekha, kutanthauza kuti mwina adzauwa mobwerezabwereza, kapena kutengeka kwakukulu kungabweretse mavuto ena a khalidwe. Komanso, kumenya munthu sikuphunzitsa galu khalidwe linakuti chosowacho chikhoza kukwaniritsidwa m’njira yovomerezeka. 
3. Mwiniwake sakudziwa kuti n'zotheka kuyanjana ndi galu m'njira yosiyana. Kunena zowona, m'nthawi yathu ya kuthekera kwa chidziwitso, izi zimawonedwa ngati "chowiringula", palibenso china. Ino ndi nthawi yokumbukira mawu akuti "Ndani akufuna - amayang'ana mwayi, amene sakufuna - zifukwa." Ndipo tsopano pali mipata yambiri yokwanira.
4. Mwini wake amangokonda kumenya galuyo. Tsoka, izi sizosowa kwambiri - kuyesa kudzitsimikizira kuti ndinu wamphamvu zonse, kuvulaza munthu wina wamoyo, kapena kukhutiritsa zikhumbo zake zachisoni. Koma palibe choyankha pano. Njira yokhayo yovomerezeka yothanirana ndi zimenezi ndi kudzera m’malamulo abwinobwino, ogwira ntchito pofuna kuteteza nyama, kuzindikira anthu oterowo ndi kuletsa kusunga agalu. Mu danga la post-Soviet, pakali pano, izi, mwatsoka, ndi utopia.

Pomaliza, kumenya agalu ndikoopsa. Malinga ndi zotsatira za kafukufukuyu, agalu osachepera 25% nthawi yomweyo amayankha nkhanza za mwiniwake mwaukali. Agalu ena poyamba amasonyeza zizindikiro zogonjera zomwe eni ake ambiri samazindikira, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti galu alibe chochita koma kudziteteza, ndipo chifukwa chake timapeza galu woopsa kwa mwiniwake ndi ena. Ena agalu, njira zimenezi anaphunzira kusowa chochita, amene nthawi zina zimagwirizana ndi eni, koma mu nkhani iyi, galu nthawi zonse amavutika, zomwe zimakhudza thanzi lake ndi moyo.

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Kodi pali njira ina? Zoyenera kuchita ngati simungathe kumenya galu?

Kumenya agalu ndi cholowa cha njira zankhanza za maphunziro zomwe zinali zofala (ndipo zinalengezedwa ngati zotheka zokha) kumayambiriro ndi pakati pa zaka zapitazo. Njirazi zinali zotsatira zachindunji pochitira agalu ngati makina omenyera nkhondo, zomwe ziyenera kuwonetsa kumvera kosakayika komanso kusowa kochitapo kanthu kuchokera pagulu la "Kumanzere, kumanja - kuphedwa pomwepo." Komanso zotsatira za kutsika kwambiri kwa kumvetsetsa kwa psychology ya galu ndi mawonekedwe ake.

Komabe, khalidwe la agalu tsopano likuphunziridwa kuchokera kumbali zonse, ndipo pazaka makumi angapo zapitazi taphunzira zambiri za "mabwenzi apamtima" kusiyana ndi zaka zikwi zapitazo. Chifukwa chake pali njira zina zochulukirapo kuposa njira zophunzitsira zankhanza, ndipo kumenya galu ndikosankha. Kuwachotsa ndi kupusa komanso kusakhulupirika kwa ziweto.

Palibe amene amatsutsa mfundo yakuti ndikofunika kuphunzitsa galu malamulo. Koma m’pofunika kuchita mwanzeru. Kukhazikika ndi kusasinthasintha, kulosera komanso kusiyanasiyana mu magawo oyenera, komanso kupereka zofunikira za bwenzi la miyendo inayi ndizofunikira kwambiri.

Pali njira zambiri zophunzitsira agalu ndikusintha khalidwe zomwe zilibe nkhanza komanso zozikidwa pakulimbikitsana bwino.

Phunzirani nokha ndi kuphunzitsa galu, ndipo mu nkhani iyi, kulankhulana naye kwa zaka zambiri adzakubweretsani chimwemwe, osaphimbidwa ndi nkhanza zopanda nzeru.

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