Mphaka anasintha bwanji moyo wanga

Chaka chapitacho, Hilary Wise atatenga mphaka Lola, sanadziwebe kuti moyo wake udzasintha bwanji.

Banja la Hilary nthawi zonse linali ndi ziweto, ndipo ankagwirizana nazo kuyambira ali mwana. Iye ankakonda kuvala amphaka zovala za ana, ndipo iwo ankakonda izo.

Tsopano, akutero Hilary, unansi wapadera ndi kamtsikana kakang’ono ka kukongolako kumamuthandiza kuthana ndi nkhaŵa za tsiku ndi tsiku.

Moyo "kale"

Hilary asanatenge Lola kwa mnzake amene ankachoka m’boma, ankaona kuti “kupsyinjika kwake kukukulirakulira: kuntchito ndi m’zibwenzi.” Ankasamala kwambiri zowunika za ena, makamaka pamene ankaona kuti "zodabwitsa" zake zimamulepheretsa kugwirizana ndi anthu.

Hilary anati: “Panali zinthu zambiri zoipa zimene ndinkachita m’moyo wanga, koma tsopano popeza ndili ndi Lola, palibenso chifukwa chochitira zinthu zoipa. Anandiphunzitsa zambiri zoti ndipirire komanso zosafunika kuzinyalanyaza.”

Hilary ananena kuti chimene chinamusintha kwambiri ndi mmene Lola ankachitira zinthu. Poyang'ana momwe bwenzi lake laubweya likuyang'ana dziko lapansi, mtsikanayo pang'onopang'ono amachotsa nkhawa.

Hilary akufotokoza kuti chomwe chinamuthandiza kwambiri chinali luso lake latsopano la "kulekerera ndi kunyalanyaza", mwachitsanzo, kuwunika kwa ena. “Zinthu zimene ndinkaziona kuti n’zofunika kwambiri zisanasinthe,” akutero akumwetulira. "Ndinayima ndikuganiza, kodi ndiyenera kukhumudwa ndi izi? N’chifukwa chiyani poyamba zinkaoneka ngati zofunika kwambiri?”

Hilary, wokongoletsa malonda, amakhulupirira kuti chikoka chabwino cha Lola chinakhudza mbali iliyonse ya moyo wake. Mtsikanayo amakonda kugwira ntchito m'sitolo yomwe imagulitsa zodzikongoletsera ndi mphatso zapadera. Ntchitoyi imamulola kuwonetsa luso komanso kukhazikitsa malingaliro apachiyambi.

“Ndinkakonda kulabadira maganizo a ena,” akuvomereza motero Hilary. "Tsopano, ngakhale Lola kulibe, ndimakhala ndekha."

wachibale

Pamene Hilary ndi chibwenzi chake Brandon adayamba kutenga Lola, adayenera kumukonda.

Mphaka wa nkhope yokoma, yemwe anali ndi zaka zitatu zokha panthawiyo, anali wosachezeka komanso wosagwirizana ndi anthu (mwinamwake, Hilary amakhulupirira, mwiniwake wakaleyo sanamumvetsere mokwanira), mosiyana ndi kumwamba ndi dziko lapansi. wochezeka, yogwira mphaka amene anatembenukira.

Panthawiyo, Hilary anakhala zaka zisanu ndi zitatu popanda mphaka, koma luso lake losamalira ziweto linabwereranso kwa iye. Anayesetsa kupambana Lola ndipo adaganiza zoyandikira kumanga maubwenzi owopsawa ndi udindo wonse. Hilary anati: “Ndinkafunanso kuti azindisamalira. "Patsani mphaka wanu nthawi, nayenso akuyankha momwemo." Amakhulupirira kuti ziweto zaubweya siziyenera kuphunzitsidwa chikondi ndi kusewera, ndizokwanira "kungokhala" nawo. Amphaka amafunikira chisamaliro ndipo amatha kuchita zinthu zamtundu uliwonse ngati sachipeza.

Panthawi yomanga ubale, Hilary nthawi zambiri ankasisita Lola ndikuyankhula naye kwambiri. “Nthawi zonse amayankha bwino mawu anga, makamaka ndikamayimba naye limodzi.”

Pomalizira pake Lola anakula kukhala mphaka wakhalidwe labwino. Saopanso anthu. Akupereka moni mwachimwemwe kwa Hilary ndi Brandon pakhomo lakumaso ndikuwapempha chidwi, makamaka ngati asokonezedwa. “Ndikalankhula ndi munthu, Lola amandidumphira pachifuwa changa n’kupanga phokoso,” Hilary akuseka. Lola amakhala wokonda anthu ena kuposa ena (monga mphaka aliyense wodzilemekeza). Amamva ngati pali “munthu wakewake” pafupi naye ndipo, malinga ndi kunena kwa mtsikanayo, amayesetsa kuti nayenso adzimve kukhala “wapadera”.

ubwenzi mpaka kalekale

M’kupita kwa nthawi, Lola wakhala akukonda kuponyedwa kwa shaggy komwe Hilary ndi Brandon amagwiritsa ntchito kuphimba sofa, ndipo akuwonetseratu kuti sakufuna kuti achotsedwe. Achinyamata ayamba kale kuvomereza kuti chovalacho chakhala gawo lofunika kwambiri lamkati mwawo, komanso matumba ogula mapepala ndi mabokosi amitundu yonse, chifukwa ngati kukongola kokongola kwanena kuti ali ndi ufulu pa chinthu chilichonse, ndiye kuti adzalandira. osataya mtima. Ayi!

Hilary amanyadira kuti adatha kupanga ubale ndi Lola, ndipo amavomereza kuti moyo wake wopanda bwenzi laubweya ungakhale wosiyana kwambiri. “Amphaka amakhala ochezeka [kuposa anthu],” akutero mtsikanayo. “Amachita zinthu zing’onozing’ono ndi maganizo abwino” ndipo sachita zinthu mopweteka ngati mmene Hilary ankachitira. Ngati moyo usanakhale Lola umadziwika ndi kupsinjika kwakuthupi ndi m'maganizo, ndiye kuti m'moyo ndi Lola pali malo osangalatsa osavuta - kugona pa bulangeti yosangalatsa kapena kuvina dzuwa.

Kodi kukhalapo kwa mphaka m’nyumba kumakhudza bwanji moyo wanu? Ndi chiyani chomwe chimakupangitsani kuti musinthe machitidwe anu kwambiri mukakhala ndi chiweto? Thanzi lake. Hilary anasiya kusuta asanatenge Lola ndipo sanabwererenso ku chizoloŵezi chake chifukwa tsopano ali ndi mphaka kuti athetse nkhawa zake.

Kwa Hilary, kusintha kumeneku kunali kwapang’onopang’ono. Asanakhale ndi Lola, sankaganiza kuti ndudu zimamuthandiza kuthetsa nkhawa. “Anangosiya kupsinjika maganizo” ndipo “anapitirizabe ndi moyo wake” mwa kupitiriza kusuta. Ndiyeno Lola anaonekera, ndipo kufunika ndudu mbisoweka.

Hilary akunena kuti ndizosatheka kuganiza mopambanitsa momwe chilichonse chozungulira chakhalira ndi mawonekedwe a Lola. Kumayambiriro kwenikweni kwa ubale wawo, zotsatira zabwino zinali zomveka, "koma tsopano zimangokhala gawo la moyo watsiku ndi tsiku."

Tsopano popeza Lola wakhala gawo lofunika kwambiri la moyo wa Hilary, mtsikanayo wakhala wokhazikika maganizo. Hilary anati: “N’zomvetsa chisoni kuti umadziona ngati wosafunika. “Tsopano sindibisa umunthu wanga.”

Pogwiritsa ntchito chitsanzo cha Hilary ndi Lola, munthu akhoza kukhulupirira kuti mphaka m'nyumba sikukhala pamodzi kwa munthu ndi nyama. Uku ndikumanga maubwenzi omwe amasintha moyo wanu wonse, chifukwa mphaka amakonda mwini wake chifukwa cha zomwe ali.